Because im unpopular

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  1. stanky2

    stanky2 Overseer

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    Let me put on my philosophers hat for a few paragraphs here...

    There is a big difference between not getting any attention and people not liking you. Don't confuse the two because while having someone talk to you, including you into a conversation is a wonderful thing, it does not always mean that they like you, and if someone doesn't include you it doesn't mean that they dislike you either.

    For instance - most of the people I talk to many days are people I don't like. Rule breakers, spammers, idiots... and the truly good players in our community, I don't have time to talk to them usually because I'm too busy busting heads with the people who need it.

    Your problem, Stephen, is not that people don't like you. No. I'm willing to bet most people don't know you or have an opinion of you either way. No, your problem is that you have not figured out yet how to make friends online. To most people you are just words scrolling up a screen and nothing quite catches their eyes. But if you say something of interest, if you involve yourself in friendly debates, if you work with people on projects that is when people start subconsciously looking for your name in chat. You need an identity online - what is Stephen like? Is he a great builder? Is he awesome at making money? Is he a hard worker that will spend hours doing boring tasks but - always get them done. Is he a music love? Is he good at redstone? What is his favorite book?

    Until you share this stuff, and involve yourself, don't expect people to involve you simply because you are online...

    Trust me - most people on here would love to have a new friend!
     
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  2. FillWerrel

    FillWerrel Survival Staff
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    Staff is the easiest way to lose popularity, I gave up what I had and I regret absolutely nothing! :)
    Except overseers. Those guys are the ones you worship.
    If you spend more time here people will enjoy your company. Try being mature and friendly, instead of complaining about people not liking you because you.. Complain. An endless circle!
    Your a nice guy and I like you so keep on having faith!
    Please don't take what people here say or do to you personal because its just a free server on an online game. I have had a few bullying issues towards me believe it or not and I realized its not a big deal if you just drop it and let it slide. If you do need help me and the staff team are here to help you with any problems you may be having on the server and we will work together to resolve them.
     
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  3. imme

    imme Well Known Member

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    *The staff team and I are here to help you
     
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  4. Conanto

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    that wasn't necessary to be honest.
     
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  5. PickachuKrew

    PickachuKrew Active Member

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    Grammar corrections are always necessary.

    #grammarnazis #sorry #r00d #hashtagsonminecraftserverwhatisthismadness #itsfacebookalloveragain
     
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  6. Dzyriq

    Dzyriq Just another humble Overseer

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    Hey Steven!!
    Being popular is not really the ultimate thing to go for. Lets take the staff for example yes we are seen quite a lot in the chat and people know who we are. How ever there is also a back side to being part of the staff team.

    Once anyone reaches the moderator rank or higher they also start seeing how much crap there is to deal with. I find it rather sad that we have to keep banning people for grief and check up on peoples mineing to see if they cheat or not. This may be fun the first week but in the end it is just a bad time killer.

    What I think you really want is a good set of friends on the server. The best way to get these contacts is to be active in the chat and possibly join a town. Sooner or later you will find people who you like to be with and have fun with.
     
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  7. chovynz

    chovynz Active Member

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    I am an idiot who doesn't read properly.
     
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  8. beckiebird

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    or just wear a pikachu hoodie to achieve all of the above
     
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  9. DragonLS

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    Just don't skin me in the process.
     
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  10. beckiebird

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    don't worry I only skin pikachus. Not Raichus (yea, I know you're a raichu.)
     
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  11. ItsBuffalo

    ItsBuffalo Active Member

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    Back to chovy's quotes, just read my signature Stephen, and think about what it actually says and means.

    It takes many good deeds to build a good reputation, and only one bad one to lose it.
    -Benjamin Franklin
     
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  12. Boobenchier

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    You're not going to get anywhere just bitching about things you've got to put yourself out there and get their attention. If they don't care about you or what you have to say then who gives a shit find someone else who does. If you don't care for something don't bitch about it do something about it. If I sound harsh, I don't care I have no clue who you are and personally don't care who you are, but those are my words of infinite wisdom which probably aren't as infinite as I just said.
     
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  13. PickachuKrew

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    Crap.
     
  14. beckiebird

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    -gets scalpel-
     
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  15. Kenny

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  16. PickachuKrew

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    Im curious when this thread became about pikachu-skinning fiends instead of the obvious attention-whorish thread.(no offense)

    If you wish to be noticed, stand out of the crowd. Don't be the one who follows the same protocol as the next guy/girl. Be the one who doesn't give a crup about other people's opinion. It's what matters to you. That sounds cheesy, the line you hear out of every movie ever, but it's true. You'll never be liked if you always strive for it. You'll just appear as "the guy who annoys everyone".... LIKE ME :D

    Anyways, point is. This thread doesn't help you. It gets you attention, if you want that. Sure. But does it get you positive attention? I think not. As said above, think not of how much attention you get, but instead how you are treated WHEN you get attention. Be patient and try to stand out. There will be someone who gives you a jumpstart on popularity.

    Eh-ehm.... yeah. -takes off intelligence- Back to unproductivity.
     
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  17. chovynz

    chovynz Active Member

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    *skins Picka*.
    Alive.
     
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  18. Harbrezan

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    Yet another thread that has gone off topic after starting out well.

    Stephen, on a server this size it is often difficult to be noticed. It took me a while to "get out there" as well, but the community on this server is above and beyond any other multiplayer server I have ever been on. The advise the others have given is exceptional. Don't take it personally if you aren't noticed in the general chat. With the amout of people that play here, you would be lucky to have your text visible with neon green text due to the amount of chat spam and general conversational text flying past. I've played here for quite a while and I still rarely get the opportunity to strike up a conversation with the general chat heroes. Don't give up on it though, there are more friendly people on this server than you will ever have time to meet. Good luck buddy, and we aren't all mean. ;)
     
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  19. Geekologist

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    Staff get ignored by people they try to bust for breaking the rules.
     
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  20. chovynz

    chovynz Active Member

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    I want to publicly apologise to Stephen.
    I misread WHO originally posted and I mistook the people.
    The things I said in my post were not intended for This Original Stephen.
    I am so, so sorry, for causing you grief like that.
    I will make sure to read who posts things, before making any further comments on any post.
     
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